A colleague recently recommended this book to me, and it’s just too good not to share with you!
Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving, by Pete Walker. This book is aimed at clients trying to recover from painful childhoods, and is so complete and illuminating, I think you may really like it. Some clients find it life-changing. You will see your spouses, friends, former friends, difficult coworkers illuminated here, as well as your own life-long patterns.
It makes a broad sweep through the process of identifying how trauma and neglect affect kids (Complex PTSD), and then describes the recovery process in a clear, grounded, and accessible way. It talks about fight, flight, freeze, and fawn (what I call attach and submit), the protective origins of these, and what results when they are relied upon too much. I can’t possibly do it justice here. The author, Pete Walker, a survivor of Complex PTSD himself, weaves his story through the text, in a sincere and humble way, highlighting the pitfalls and successes that are possible in the course of recovery.
I have been searching for a resource aimed at clients for a long time–and here it is. I urge you to give it a try. I will probably listen to it 3 or 4 times. If you don’t like it, that’s fine. Take what you like and leave the rest. You can get it on Audiobooks for free if it’s your first audiobook. If you prefer books, there are many used on Amazon too.